Islamic Studies

Forty tips to repair homes

Forty tips to repair homes

Forty tips to repair homes Our generations

 

an introduction

Praise be to God, we praise Him and we seek His help and forgiveness, and we seek refuge in God from the evils of ourselves and from the evils of our deeds.

He whom God guides, there is no misleading him, and he who misleads, there is no guide for him, and I bear witness that there is no god but God alone who has no partner, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and Messenger… Then:

home is a blessing

God Almighty said: “And God has made for you a residence in your homes.” Al-Nahl verse 80 .


Ibn Katheer – may God have mercy on him – said: “The Blessed and Exalted mentions the fullness of His blessings upon His servants, by what He has made for them of the houses that are their dwellings, in which they can shelter and hide, and from which they can benefit from all kinds of benefits.”

what does a home represent to one of us ? Is it not the place where he eats, marries, sleeps and rests? Is it not the place where he is alone and meeting with his family and children?


Is it not the place of women’s cover and maintenance?! 

The Almighty said: “And stay in your homes, and do not display the finery of the first pre-Islamic era.” Surah Al-Ahzab verse 33

If you contemplate the conditions of the people who do not have homes, who live in shelters, or on the sidewalks, and the homeless refugees in temporary camps, you will know the blessing of home.

Or the park or on the seashore, and my wardrobe in my car; So I would have known the meaning of the distraction caused by the deprivation of the blessing of the home.


And when God took revenge on the Jews of Banu al-Nadir, He robbed them of this blessing and expelled them from their homes, so the Almighty said:

“It is He who expelled those who disbelieved from their homes at the beginning of the resurrection .” 

Then he said: “They are destroying their homes with their own hands and the hands of the believers, so consider, O you who have sight.” Surat Al-Hashr, verse 2:


The motive for the believer to be interested in repairing his house are several things:

First: Protecting the soul and family from the fire of Hell, and safety from the torment of burning:

“O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are angels, harsh and stern, who do not disobey God in what He commands them and do as they are commanded.” Surat Al-Tahrim, verse 6

Second: The great responsibility placed on the guardian of the house Before God on the Day of Judgment:

He, peace and blessings of God be upon him, said: “God Almighty will ask every shepherd about what he entrusted him with, whether he kept that or forsaken it, until he asks a man about the people of his household.”

Third: It is the place to protect the soul, to be safe from evil and to keep it away from people, and it is the legal refuge at the time of turmoil: He
, peace and blessings of God be upon him, said: “Blessed is he who owns his tongue and expands his home and weeps over his sin.”

And he, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said:

“Five of those who do one of them are against God, whoever visits a sick person, or goes out for a raid, or enters an imam wanting to be reprimanded and venerated, or sits in his house and the people are safe from him, and the people are safe from him.”

And he, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said:

“A man’s safety fromtemptation is to stay at home.”

A Muslim can see the benefit of this matter in a state of exile when he is unable to change many of the evils, so he has a refuge if he enters it, he protects himself from forbidden work and forbidden looking, protects his family from wanton display and unveiling, and protects his children from bad companions.

Fourth: People usually spend most of their time inside their homes, especially in extreme heat, extreme cold, rain, the beginning and the end of the day, and when they have finished working and studying.

The time must be spent on acts of worship, otherwise it will be lost in taboos.

Fifthly: And the most important of them is that caring for the home is the great means of building the Muslim community, for the community consists of houses that are its building blocks, and homes are neighborhoods, and neighborhoods are a community.

So he leaves the Muslim home and enters the society the pillars of reform in it. From the preacher by example, the seeker of knowledge, the sincere mujahid, the righteous wife, the mother who nurtures, and the rest of the reformers.

If the issue is of such importance, and our homes contain many evils, great shortcomings, negligence and negligence; Here comes the big question:


What are the home repair methods?

Here, dear reader, is the answer, advice in this field, in the hope that God will benefit from it, and direct the efforts of the sons of Islam to send the message of the Muslim home anew.

These advice revolve around two matters: either to achieve benefits, which is doing what is right, or to ward off evil, which is the removal of evil.

This is the time to start the intended.

house composition

Tip #1: Choose a good wife

“The female relative Aloyamy of you and the righteous of Ebadkm and Amaikm if they are poor , Allah will enrich them of His bounty , and Allah broad Knowing” Surat Al – Nur verse 32

should be the owner of the house the selection of a good wife to the following conditions:

“marry women four: their wealth, their lineage, and Jmlha, and her religion, Choose the one with the same religion raised your hands.” Agreed upon.

“The whole world is enjoyment, and the best enjoyment of this world is a righteous woman.” Narrated by Muslim 1468,

“Let one of you adopt a thankful heart, a remembrance tongue, and a believing wife who will help him in the matter of the Hereafter.”

Narrated by Ahmad, 5/282, and Al-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah on the authority of Thawban Sahih Al-Jami’ 5231 and
in a narration “And a righteous wife” Helping you in the affairs of your world and your religion is the best of what people hoard.”

Narrated by Al-Bayhaqi, Sahih Al-Jami’ 4285
“Marry the affectionate and the fertile.

“You have to be with the virgins, for they are the most beautiful of kinship, the sweetest of their mouths, and the most contented of them.”

 And in the narration “and less hidden” i.e.: deceit narrated by Ibn Majah Al-Silsilah
As- Sahihah 623 Just as a good woman is one of the four aspects of happiness,

so a bad woman is one of the four of misery, as it came in the authentic hadith in which he said: “From happiness: a good woman sees her and you like her.”

And she is absent from us, so she is safe from herself and your money, and from the waterskin: the woman who sees her, and she harms you, and holds her tongue against you, and if you are absent from her, she will not be safe from herself and your money.”

Narrated by Ibn Hibban and it is in the Sahihah 282.

 And agree to it according to the following conditions:

“If someone whose religion and character you are pleased with comes to you, then marry him, otherwise there will be trials on the earth and widespread corruption.”

In all of the foregoing, it is necessary to ask a good question, scrutinize the research, gather information, and trust sources and news so as not to spoil the house or destroy it.
A righteous man and a righteous woman build a righteous house, because a good country brings forth its vegetation with the permission of its Lord, and what is evil does not come out except in bitterness.

Tip “2” Seeking to reform the wife

If the wife is righteous, then she is virtuous and gracious, and this is by the grace of God. This may happen in some cases, including:

a man marries a woman who is not religious in the first place; Because he was not interested in the subject of religiousness himself in the principle of his case, or that he married her in the hope that he would reform her, or under pressure from his relatives, for example, here it is necessary to roll up the reform process.

And the man must know first that the guidance is from God, and God is the one who fixes, and from him on His servant Zacharias His saying in it: “And We fixed his wife for him.” Surat Al-Anbiya, verse 90,

whether it was physical or religious reform. Ibn Abbas said: She was barren, did not give birth, and she gave birth Ataa said:

There was length in her tongue, so God fixed it, and to rectify the wife, and means including:

Takingcare of correcting her worship of God in all its forms, as will be detailed.
Striving to raise her faith in such as:

Urged her to do the night.

And read the Holy Book.

Memorizing the dhikr and reminding them of their times and occasions.

He urged her to give charity.

Reading useful Islamic books .

listening to useful Islamic tapes; Scientific and faith-based and follow-up to supply them.

Choosing female companions for her from among the religious people with whom she will establish brotherly ties, and exchange good conversations and purposeful visits with them.

Warding off evil from her and blocking its outlets, by keeping her away from bad companions and bad places.


Faith in the home
Tip “3”:
Make the home a place for the remembrance of God

He, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “The example of the house in which God is remembered, and the house in which God is not remembered is that of the living and the dead.”

The home must be made a place for remembrance of all kinds. Whether mentioning the heart, mentioning the tongue, prayers and reading the Qur’an, or studying Islamic science and reading its various books.

How many Muslim homes today are dead by not mentioning God in them, as it came in the hadith, but what is their condition if what is mentioned in them is Satan’s melodies of psalms and singing, backbiting,

falsehood and gossip?! …
How is her condition when she is full of sins and abominations, such as forbidden mixing and display of display among non-mahram relatives, or neighbors who
enter the house?!

How do angels enter a house in this state?! Live your homes, may God have mercy on you, with the types of remembrance.

Tip “4”: Make your homes a kiss

It is intended to take the house as a place of worship.
God Almighty said:

“And We revealed to Moses and his brother that you should build houses for your people in Egypt, and make your houses a direction of prayer, and establish prayer, and give good tidings to the believers.”

Surah Yunus, verse 87 Ibn Abbas said: They were commanded to take them as mosques.

Ibn Katheer said:

“And this was – and God knows best – when the affliction from Pharaoh and his people intensified for them, and they narrowed them down, they commanded a lot of prayer as God Almighty said:

“O you who believe, seek help by patience and prayer.” Surat Al-Baqarah, verse 153. And in the hadith: The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, if his party is commanded, he prays.

This shows the importance of worship at home, especially in times of weakness, as well as what happens in some situations when Muslims are unable to show their prayers in front of the infidels. 

We also remember in this regard the mihrab of Mary, which is the place of her worship in which God said: “Every time Zakaria entered the mihrab, he found with her provision.” Surah Al Imran verse 37

The Companions – may God be pleased with them – were keen to pray at home – not in the obligatory – and this is an expressive story in that:

on the authority of Mahmoud bin Al-Rabee’ Al-Ansari, that Atban bin Malik – who is one of the companions of the Messenger, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, and he was one of the Ansar who witnessed Badr He came to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and said:

O Messenger of God! I denied my sight when I was praying for my people.

If it rained, the valley between me and them would flow. I could not go to their mosque and pray with them.

I wish, Messenger of God, that you would come to me and pray in my house, so I would take it as a chapel.

He said: The Messenger of God, peace be upon him, said: “I will do – if he wills.” Allah – ” . Atban said:

Tomorrow, the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, and Abu Bakr, when the day rose, so the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, sought permission, and I gave him permission.

He did not sit until he entered the house, then he said: “Where would you like me to pray in your house?” He said:

 So I pointed him to a side of the house, so the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, got up and said the takbeer. Narrated by Al-Bukhari Al-Fath 1/519

Tip “5”:
Faith Education for Ahl al-Bayt

On the authority of Aisha – may God be pleased with her – she said:

“The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, used to pray at night, and when praying the ritual prayer, he said, ‘Get up and perform the ritual prayer, Aisha.

” Narrated by Muslim, Muslim, with the explanation of an-Nawawi 6/23, and
he, peace and blessings of God be upon him, said:

“May God have mercy on a man who gets up at night and prays and wakes up his wife and she prays, and if she refuses, he sprinkles water on her face.” Narrated by Ahmad and Abu Dawood, Sahih al-Jami’ 3488.

The encouragement of women in the house to give alms increases faith, and it is a great matter that the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, urged, by saying: “O women, give charity, for I saw that you are most of the people of Hell.” Narrated by Al-Bukhari, Al-Fath 1/405

One of the innovative ideas is to put a box for donations at home for the poor and needy, so that everything that goes into it will belong to the needy; Because it is their vessel in the home of a Muslim.

And if the people of the House see an example among them fasting the days of the Whites, Mondays and Thursdays, and Tasu’a, Ashura, Arafah, and a lot of Muharram and Sha’ban, then it will motivate them to imitate it.
Tip “6”: Pay attention to the legal remembrances and Sunnahs related to homes
. Examples of this are:
Remembrances for entering the house.
Muslim narrated in his Sahih that the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

“If a man enters his house, he mentions the name of God Almighty when he enters and when he is fed. Satan said: There is no overnight stay.

You have no dinner here, and if he enters, he does not mention the name of God when he enters, he said:

You have reached the night, and if the name of God is not mentioned at his restaurant, He said: You have reached the night and dinner. Narrated by Imam Ahmad, Al-Musnad 346:3, and Muslim 1599:

Abu Dawood narrated in his Sunan that the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said:

“If a man goes out of his house and says: In the name of God, I put my trust in God, there is no might or power except with God, and it is said to him:

It is sufficient for you that you have been guided, sufficed and protected, and Satan will step aside from him.

Another devil says to him: How do you deal with a man who has been guided, sufficed, and protected? Narrated by Abu Dawood and Al-Tirmidhi, and it is in Sahih Al-Jami’ No. 499 The
toothpick was
narrated by Imam Muslim in his Sahih on the authority of Aisha – may God be pleased with her – she said:

“The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, when he entered his house, began with the tooth brush.” Narrated by Muslim, Book of Purification, Chapter 15 No. 44

Tip “7”: Continue reading Surat Al-Baqarah at home to expel Satan from it

In this there are several hadiths, including:
The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “Do not make your homes graves, for Satan flees from the house in which Surat Al-Baqarah is recited.” Narrated by Muslim 1/539.

your homes, for Satan does not enter a house in which Surat Al-Baqarah is recited.” It was narrated by Al-Hakim in Al-Mustadrak 1/561 and it is in Sahih Al-Jami’ 1170
and about the merit of the last two verses of it, and the effect of reciting them in the house.

He, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “God Almighty wrote a book two thousand years before He created the heavens and the earth, while it is at the Throne, and that He sent down two verses from it.

He sealed Surat al-Baqarah with them, and they do not recite in the house for three nights, so Satan will draw near to it.” Narrated by Imam Ahmad in al-Musnad 4/274 and others, and it is in Sahih al-Jami’ 1799


Forensic knowledge in the home
Tip “8”:
Educating the family of the house

It is a legal obligation that must be carried out by the head of the family in fulfillment of the command of the Almighty in the noble verse: “O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones.”

Surat Al-Tahrim, verse 6: Here, dear reader, is some of what the commentators have said in this verse, regarding what is obligatory for the head of the family:
Qatada said: He commands them to obey God, and forbids them to disobey Him.

Al-Dahhak and Muqatil said: A Muslim has the right to inform his family, including his relatives and his female slaves, what God has enjoined upon them and what He has forbidden them to do.

Ali – may God be pleased with him – said: Teach them and discipline them.

And Al-Kia al-Tabari – may God have mercy on him – said: We must teach our children and families religion, goodness, and the indispensable manners of literature.

 And if the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, urged the education of female slaves while they were slaves; How about your children and your free family.

Al-Bukhari – may God Almighty have mercy on him – said in his Sahih: Chapter on a man’s education for his nation and his family. Then he quoted his hadeeth, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him:

“Three have two rewards.. and a man who had a slave woman and he disciplined her and disciplined her well, taught her and taught her well, then he freed her and married her, and he has two rewards.”

Ibn Hajar – may God have mercy on him – said in explaining the hadith:

The hadith matches the translation – i.e. the title of the chapter – In the nation by text, and in the family by analogy, since caring for free families in teaching the statutes of God and the Sunnah of His Messenger is more emphatic than caring for female slaves.

In the midst of a man’s preoccupations, his job and his connections, he may neglect to devote himself to educating his family.

One of the solutions to this is to allocate what makes it a general appointment for the people of the house, and even other relatives, to hold a knowledge council in the house, and everyone knows about this date, so their attendance is controlled, and they are encouraged to come to it, and it becomes obligatory.

In front of them, and in his presence, and here is what happened from him, peace be upon him, in this regard.
Al-Bukhari – may God have mercy on him – said:

Chapter: Should women be given a day alone in knowledge, and he cited the hadith of Abu Saeed al-Khudri – may God be pleased with him – the women said to the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him:

“The men have overcome you, so make for us a day from yourself, so he promised them a day when he met them.” So he admonished them and instructed them.”

Ibn Hajar said: It occurred in the narration of Sahel Ibn Abi Saleh on the authority of his father on the authority of Abu Hurairah according to this story, so he said: “You meet with the house of so-and-so, so he came to them and told them.” Fath al-Bari 1/195

It can be taken from the hadith that women are taught in the homes, and the women of the Companions were keen to learn, and that directing efforts to men only, not women, is a great shortcoming of preachers and heads of households.

Some readers may say: Suppose we allotted a day, and our parents told us about that, so what is presented in these sessions? How do we start?

In answer to that, I present to you, dear reader, a proposal in this regard that will be a simplified approach, for teaching the household in general, and for women in particular.

Interpretation of the scholar Ibn Saadi named: “Facilitating the Generous, the Most Merciful in the Interpretation of Kalam Al-Mannan.” It is located in seven volumes, detailed in a simple style, from which surahs and passages are read or presented.

Riyadh Al-Salihin, with some commentaries and sermons on his hadiths, and the benefits deduced from them. This can be referred to in the book: Nuzhat Al-Mutaqeen.
“A good example is what has been proven from God and His Messenger with regard to women.”

It is also important for a woman to learn some jurisprudential rulings, such as the rulings on purity, natural blood, the rulings on prayer and zakat, fasting and Hajj if she is able, some rulings on food and drink, dress and adornment, the Sunnahs of instinct and forbidden things, and the ruling on singing, photography, and others.

Among the important sources in this are: Fatwas People of knowledge as a group of fatwas of Sheikh Abdul Aziz bin Baz (may God have mercy on him), Sheikh Muhammad bin Saleh Al-Uthaymeen, and other scholars, whether written or recorded on tapes.

Among the schedule of women’s education and Ahl al-Bayt is reminding them of lessons and public lectures that they can attend for scholars, or trustworthy students of knowledge, in order to find several good and varied sources of education, and do not forget in this field to listen to many of the activities of the Holy Qur’an Radio, and direct attention to it, and it falls within the framework of providing Means of education also:

Reminding the household of the days allotted for women to attend Islamic book fairs, and taking them there according to the legal conditions.

Tip “9”: Make a nucleus for an Islamic library in your home

Which helps in educating the family, allowing them to understand the religion and helping them to abide by the rulings of sharee’ah. The work of an Islamic library at home. 

It does not have to be large, but the lesson is to select the important books, put them in a place that is easy to eat and encourage the family to read them.

A corner in the inner hall of the house is clean and tidy, and a suitable place for some books, in a bedroom, and in the guest room, allowing the individual in the house to read constantly.

Among the perfection of the library – and God loves perfection – is that it contains references suitable for examining various issues, and of benefit to children in schools, and that it contains books of different levels, suitable for adults and children, men and women, and books for gifting to guests, friends of children,

and family visitors, taking care to Attractive editions, verified and directed by hadiths, and book fairs can be used to establish a home library after consulting with experts in books. 

What helps in finding the book is the arrangement of the library according to the topics, so the tafsir books are on one shelf, the hadiths are on another.. and fiqh is on the third..and so on. Many who are keen may wonder about the names of Islamic books for the home library.

Here are some suggestions, dear reader:
Interpretation: Ibn Katheer’s Tafsir, Ibn Saadi’s Tafsir, Al-Ashqar’s Tafsir Butter, Ibn al-Qayyim’s Badaa’ al-Tafsir, Usool al-Tafsir by Ibn Uthaymeen, Glimpses into the Sciences of the Qur’an by Muhammad al-Sabbagh.

The hadith: Sahih al-Kalam al-Tayyib, the work of a Muslim during the day and night “or al-Sahih al-Musnad from the remembrances of the day and night,” Riyadh al-Salihin and its explanation Nuzha al-Mutaqin,

a summary of Sahih al-Bukhari by al-Zubaidi, a summary of Sahih Muslim by al-Mundhiri and al-Albani, Sahih al-Jami’ al-Saghir, and weak al-Jami al-Saghir, Sahih al-Targheeb wa al-Tarhib, The Sunnah and Its Place in Legislation, Rules and Benefits from Nazem Sultan’s Forty An-Nawawi.

Creed: Fath al-Majid, Explanation of the Book of Tawheed “Al-Arna’oot Investigation”, the published flags of the Sunnah by al-Hakami “Mahaqiq”, Explanation of the Tahawiyah Creed, verified by al-Albani, The Creed series by Omar Suleiman al-Ashqar “8” parts, the signs of the Hour, d. Youssef Alwabel.

Fiqh: Manar al-Sabil by Ibn Dwayan with Irwa al-Ghalil by al-Albani, Zad al-Ma’ad, al-Mughni by Ibn Qudamah, Fiqh al-Sunnah, Jurisprudential Summary for Saleh al-Fawzan, a collection of fatwas of scholars “Abdul-Aziz Ibn Baz, Muhammad Salih al-Uthaymeen, Abdullah Ibn Jibreen”,

the description of the Prophet’s prayer, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him Peace be upon him by Sheikh Al-Albani and Sheikh Abdul Aziz bin Baz, and the summary of the rulings on funerals by Al-Albani.

Ethics and purification of souls:

Refining the paths of the walkers, the benefits, the sufficient answer, the path of the two migrations and the door of the two happiness, the good and the lifter of good words by Ibn al-Qayyim, the kindness of knowledge by Ibn Rajab, the refinement of the admonition of the believers, the nourishment of the souls.

Biographies and translations:The Beginning and the End by Ibn Katheer, the abbreviation of Al-Shama’il Muhammadiyah by Al-Tirmidhi, Al-Albani’s abbreviation, Al-Raheeq Al-Makhtum by Mubarakpuri, Capitals from Al-Qawasim by Ibn Al-Arabi. Al-Khatib and Al-Istanbuli, Civil Society 1-2 by Sheikh Akram Al-Omari. .

There are also a number of good books in various fields, including:

Al-Imam Al-Mujaddid wrote Sheikh Muhammad bin Abdul Wahhab, the scholar Sheikh Abdul Rahman bin Nasser Al-Saadi wrote, Sheikh Omar bin Suleiman Al-Ashqar wrote, Sheikh Muhammad bin Ahmed bin Ismail Al-Muqaddam wrote,

Professor Muhammad Muhammad Hussein wrote, Sheikh Muhammad Jamil Zeno wrote, and Professor Hussein Al-Awaysha wrote In the chips, The Book of Faith by Muhammad Naim Yassin, Loyalty and Disavowal by Sheikh Muhammad Saeed Al-Qahtani,

Doctrinal Deviations in the Twelfth and Thirteenth Centuries by Ali bin Bakhit Al-Zahrani, Muslims and the Phenomenon of Psychological Defeat by Abdullah Al-Shabanah, Women Between Jurisprudence and Law by Mustafa Al-Sibai,

The Muslim Family in Front of Video and Television By Marwan Kajk, The Muslim Woman, Her Settings and Responsibilities, by Ahmed Abu Bateen, the Muslim father’s responsibility for raising his son by Adnan Bahareth,

the Muslim veil by Ahmed Al-Barazi, the book The Role of the Magi by Abdullah Muhammad Al-Gharib, the books of Sheikh Bakr Abu Zaid, and the research of Sheikh Mashwar Hassan Salman.

And there are many useful things in the world of brochures, and it will be long for us if we want to narrate, so the Muslim should consult and study carefully for selection. It is God to do good Rulings in religion .

Tip 10: Audio libraries at home

The recorder in every home can do good or evil, so how can we influence using it to be pleasing to God?
One of the means to achieve this is:

Creating an audio library at home that contains a range of good Islamic tapes, for scholars, readers, lecturers, preachers and preachers.

Hearing tapes of humbled recitation from the voices of some of the imams of Tarawih prayers, for example, has a great effect on the family at home, in terms of affecting them with the meanings of the revelation, or their memorization as a result of repeating what they hear,

as well as in terms of protecting them by listening to the Qur’an from satanic listening of melodies and songs, because the adhaan And the breasts are not suitable for the words of the Most Merciful to be mixed with the flutes of Satan.

How many tapes of fatwas have an impact on the people of the house’s understanding of the various rulings that they encounter daily in their lives, and what is suggested in this aspect is listening to the recorded fatwas of scholars such as Sheikh Abdul Aziz bin Baz,

Sheikh Muhammad Nasir Al-Din Al-Albani, Sheikh Muhammad Al-Uthaymeen and Sheikh Saleh Al-Fawzan, and others from Trustworthy in science and religion.

Muslims must take care of the side from which they take the fatwa, because this is a religion, so look from whom you take your religion, for taking from someone who is known for his righteousness and piety,

his piety and his dependence on authentic hadiths, his lack of sectarian fanaticism, his walk with evidence, and his adherence to the middle doctrine, so do not be harsh or lenient, he is the expert who We ask him:

“The Most Gracious, so ask for him an expert.” Surat Al-Furqan, verse: 59.

Listening to the lecturers who work to educate the nation, establish the argument, and denounce evil is an important matter in building the personality of the individual in the Muslim home.

The tapes are many and the lecturers are many. The important thing is for the Muslim to know the characteristics of the correct approach to the lecturer so that he is keen on his tapes and is confident of hearing them. 

Among those features:That he be on the doctrine of the saved sect, Ahl al-Sunnah wal-Jamaa’ah, adhere to the Sunnah, separate from heresy, and be a middle ground in his approach, neither from the exaggerated nor from the excessive and lenient ones.

To adopt authentic hadiths and beware of weak and fabricated hadiths.

To have insight into the condition of the people and the reality of the nation, putting medicine on the site of the disease, and providing people with what they need.

That he be a teller of the truth as much as possible, he does not speak falsehood and does not please people with the wrath of God.

How much we found in children’s tapes of a great influence on them, whether in their memorization of multiple surahs from a small reader reciting, or remembrances of the day and night, Islamic etiquette, and purposeful songs, and so on.

Placing the tapes in drawers in an organized manner makes it easier to access them on the one hand, and protects the tapes from damage and children’s play on the other hand, and we must strive to publish a good tape by giving it or lending it to others after hearing it. 

Having a recorder in the kitchen is very beneficial for the housewife, as well as in the bedroom helps to make use of the time to the last moment.

Tip 11:
Invite the righteous, the good, and the students of knowledge to visit at home

“Lord , forgive me and my parents and those who come into my house a believer for believing men and women and increased oppressors only Tbara” Nuh verse: 28

The entry of the people of faith in your house aggravated Nora, and gets because of their conversations and question and discussion with them of interest issues frequent, Vhaml musk either Ihvek,

and either bought From it, or you find a pleasant smell from it, and the children, brothers, and fathers sit, and the women listen from behind a veil of what is said about it as an education for all.

Tip 12:
Learn the legal rulings for homes

Including:
Praying at home:
As for the man, he, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, says about him: “The best prayer is a person’s prayer in his house, except for the obligatory prayers.” Narrated by Al-Bukhari, Al-Fath No. 731.

So it is obligatory that you pray in the mosque except for those who have an excuse, and the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, said Also:

“A man’s volunteering in his home is greater than his volunteering among people, such as the superiority of a man’s prayer in congregation over his prayer alone.” Narrated by Ibn Abi Shaybah, Sahih Al-Jami’ 2953. 

As for the woman, the deeper the place of her prayer, the better, because of what the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “The best prayer of women is in the bottom of their homes.” Narrated by al-Tabarani, Sahih al-Jami’ 3311.

Not to lead others in prayer in his house, and not to sit in the place of the owner of the house without permission: The Messenger of God, peace and blessings of God be upon him, said:

“A man should not lead prayer in accordance with his authority, and he should not sit in his honor in his house except with his permission.” Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi No. 2772.

 That is, he should not lead him in the lead, even if someone else reads more than him in a place that he owns, or has authority over him, such as the owner of the house in his house or the imam of the mosque.

Asking permission:
“O you who have believed, do not enter houses other than your own until you have asked permission and greeted their people.

That is better for you, so that you may remember.” 27 If you do not find anyone in them, do not enter them until permission is given to you. Verses 27
and 28:

“And they came to the houses by their doors.” Surah Al-Baqarah, Verse: 189
Passport to enter homes where one is not without permission if the inside of the baggage like a house prepared for the guest:

“You do not have wing to enter houses is inhabited by the pleasures of you and God knows what you reveal what you hide” Surat Al – Nur verse 29

not to conscientious objection in the eating of relatives and friends houses, And what does a person have the key to from the homes of relatives and friends from the homes of others if they do not hate it:

“There is no blame on the blind, nor on the lame, nor on the sick, nor on yourselves that you eat from your homes, or from your fathers’ homes, or your mothers’ homes, or your brothers’ homes, or your sisters’ homes Or the houses of your paternal uncles or the houses of your aunts or the houses of your maternal uncles or the houses of your aunts or what you have the keys to or your friend, you do not have to eat all of them or scattered things.” Surah An-Nur verse 61

He ordered children and servants not to enter the parents’ bedroom without permission during the usual bedtime times:

before dawn prayer, nap time, and after evening prayer, lest their eyes fall on what is not appropriate. He prevented them, the Almighty said:

“O you who believe, let those of you who have not reached puberty ask permission from you three times before the dawn prayer and when you put your clothes on at noon and after the evening prayer. All-Knowing, All-Wise.” Surat An-Nur, Verse 58.

Prohibition of looking into the homes of others without their permission:

The Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

“Whoever looks into a people’s house without permission and they gouge out his eye, then there is no blood money for him or retribution.”Narrated by Ahmad, al-Musnad 2/385 and it is in Sahih al-Jami’ 6046

Not leaving or expelling the revocable divorced woman from her home throughout the period of the waiting period while spending on her:

The Almighty said: “Oh Prophet, if you divorce women, divorce them for their waiting period, and count the waiting period and fear God, your Lord.

He has wronged himself, you do not know, perhaps God will bring about a matter after that.” Surat Al-Talaq, verse 1.

It is permissible for a man to leave his disobedient wife in the house or outside the house, according to the legitimate interest: As for his desertion at home, the evidence of God Almighty’s saying: “And desert them in their beds” Surah An-Nisa, verse 34.

He stoned them, and he retired to a bar outside his women’s homes. Narrated by Al-Bukhari, The Book of Divorce is a chapter on Al-Ila’.

And he should not sleep alone in the house: On the authority of Ibn Omar, may God be pleased with him, that the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, forbade loneliness, that a man should sleep alone or travel alone. Narrated by Ahmad in Al-Musnad 2/91. Or sickness.

The presence of a companion with him repels the greed of the enemy and the thief and helps him when sick. See Al-Fath Al-Rabbani 5/64.

He does not sleep on the back of a house that does not have a wall so that he does not fall: The Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “Whoever sleeps on the back of a house without stones, his duty has been cleared of him.”

Narrated by Abu Dawud, Sunan No. 5041, which is in Sahih Al-Jami’ 6113 and explained in Awn al-Ma’bood 13/384

This is that the sleeper may turn in his sleep, and if he is on a surface that does not have stones or a veil that blocks the person from falling and prevents him from falling and falling, he may fall and die,

then no one will be held accountable for his death and he will be discharged from his duty, or he may have caused his negligence in God’s lack of trust and preservation of him, because he did not take the reasons.

House cats do not defile the vessel if they drink from it, nor the food if they eat from it:

On the authority of Abdullah bin Abi Qatada, on the authority of his father, that his ablution was performed for him, and the cat licked it, so he began to perform ablution, and they said: O Abu Qatada! The cats were licked at him, and he said: I heard the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, say:

“The cats are from the people of the House, and they are from the roaming, and the rafts are upon you.” Narrated by Ahmad in Al-Musnad 5/309 and it is in Sahih Al-Jami’ 3694, and in a narration:

“It is not impure, it is From the roaming, and the rafts are upon you.” Narrated by Ahmad in Al-Musnad 5/309 and it is in Sahih Al-Jami’ 2437


Meetings at home
Tip 13:
Provide the opportunity for meetings to discuss family matters

 “And they commanded them to take counsel among themselves.” Surah Al-Shura, verse 38.

When family members have the opportunity to sit together in an appropriate position to discuss internal or external matters related to the family,

this is a sign of the family’s cohesion, interaction and cooperation, and there is no doubt that the man whom God has entrusted the affairs of his flock in his home is the first responsible, and the decision-maker,

but allowing the space for others – Especially when the children grow up – it educates them to take responsibility, in addition to comforting everyone because they feel that their opinions are valuable when they are asked to express them.

Examples of this are discussing matters related to Hajj or Umrah Ramadan and other holidays, and traveling for the sake of family ties, or permissible leisure.

Organizing weddings and wedding feasts, or the ‘aqeeqah for a newborn, or moving from one house to another, and charitable projects, such as counting the neighborhood’s poor, providing aid, or sending food to them, as well as discussing the family’s situation and relatives’ problems and how to contribute to solving them, and so on..

It is worth mentioning here another important type of meeting, which is the frankness sessions between parents and their children.

Some of the problems that are presented to some adults can only be resolved by solitary sessions.

The father is alone with his son and talks to him about issues related to the problems of youth, adolescence, and the provisions of puberty, as well as The mother is alone with her daughter in order to teach her what she needs from the Islamic rulings, and to help her in solving the problems that come up at this age.

The father and mother’s initiation to speak with the phrase “when I was your age…” has a great effect on acceptance, and the lack of such frankness is what leads to These are to open up to bad partners and bad partners, and great evil results from that.

Tip 14:
Do not reveal family disputes in front of the children:

It is rare for a group to live in a house without any kind of quarrel, and reconciliation is better and returning to the truth is a virtue.

 But what undermines the cohesion of the house, and harms the integrity of the internal structure, is the emergence of conflicts in front of the family, so they are divided into two or more camps, and the group is dispersed, in addition to the psychological damage to the children and the young in particular.

So, consider the situation of a house in which the father says to the father: Do not speak to your mother, and the mother says Him: Do not speak to your father, the boy is in a whirlwind and my soul is torn apart, and everyone lives in sullenness.

 So let us be keen that disagreements do not occur, and we will try to hide them if they do occur, and we ask God to reconcile hearts.

Tip 15:
Not to bring someone whose religion is not acceptable to the house:

The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “The example of a bad companion is that of the owner of the bellows.”

A piece of the narration of Abi Dawood 4829. And in the narration of Al-Bukhari: “The mourning den burns your house or your clothes, or you find a bad smell from it.” Narrated by Al-Bukhari Al-Fath 4/323. 

That is, God will burn your house with all kinds of corruption and corruption, how much the entry of corrupters and suspicious people is a cause of enmity between the people of the house, and separation between a man and his wife,

and may God curse the one who turns a woman against her husband, or a husband against his wife, and causes enmity between the father and his children, and what are the reasons for placing magic in homes or Sometimes thefts and corruption of character happen a lot except after the entry of someone whose religion is not acceptable, so permission should not be given to enter him, even if he is from the neighbors, men and women, or from those who pretend to be friends with men and women, and some people are silent under the weight of embarrassment, and if they see him at the door, he is allowed, and he knows It is spoilers. 

And the woman in the house bears a great part of this responsibility. The Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

“O people, which day is I forbidden? Which day is I forbidden? Which day is I forbidden?” They said: The day of the greatest pilgrimage. Then he said, peace and blessings be upon him, in between His comprehensive sermon on that day:

“As for your rights over your women, those you hate should not trample your bedding, and those you hate should not tread in your homes, nor allow those you hate to enter your homes.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi 1163 and others on the authority of Amr ibn al-Ahwas and it is in Sahih al-Jami’ 7880. 

So do not find yourself in yourself, O Muslim woman, if your husband or father prevents one of the female neighbors from entering the house, due to what he sees of her effect on corruption.

 Advice on you is obligatory for your husband if you notice that some of his regrets in his house are people who embellish the evil for him. 

O people, which day is forbidden? Which day is forbidden? Which day is forbidden? ? They said: The day of the greatest pilgrimage.

Then he said, peace and blessings be upon him, in the folds of his comprehensive sermon on that day:

“As for your rights over your women, no one you hate should trample your bedding, nor should someone you hate enter your homes.” Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi 1163 and others on the authority of Amr ibn Al-Ahwas and it is in Sahih Al-Jami’ 7880.

O Muslim woman, do not be content with yourself if your husband or father prevents a female neighbor from entering the house, due to what he sees of her effect on corruption, and be intelligent and firm if you make comparisons between her husband and your husband, which will end with you pushing your husband to ask your husband for things he cannot handle.

To your husband, if you notice that some of his regrets in his home are people who embellish the evil for him. 

O people, which day is forbidden? Which day is forbidden? Which day is forbidden? ? They said: The day of the greatest pilgrimage.

Then he said, peace and blessings be upon him, in the folds of his comprehensive sermon on that day:

“As for your rights over your women, no one you hate should trample your bedding, nor should someone you hate enter your homes.” Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi 1163 and others on the authority of Amr ibn Al-Ahwas and it is in Sahih Al-Jami’ 7880.

O Muslim woman, do not be content with yourself if your husband or father prevents a female neighbor from entering the house, due to what he sees of her effect on corruption, and be intelligent and firm if you make comparisons between her husband and your husband, which will end in you pushing your husband to demand things that he cannot handle.

To your husband, if you notice that some of his regrets in his home are people who embellish the evil for him.

Gift: Try to be present at home whenever you can. The presence of the guardian in his house controls things, and enables him to supervise education and reform conditions by monitoring and follow-up.

According to some people, the basic principle is to leave the house, and if he does not find a place to go, he returns to the house, and this A wrong principle.

If a person goes out of his home for acts of obedience, then he has to balance it, and if his going out is for disobedience and waste of time or excessive preoccupation with worldly affairs, then he has to reduce his preoccupations and commerce, and settle empty meetings.

 Miserable people waste their families, and stay up late in amusement parks.. and we do not want to follow the schemes of the enemies of God, and this is a paragraph in which there is a lesson: It came in the French Masonic Great East Bulletin held in 1923 AD as follows:

Tip 16:
Accuracy in observing the conditions of the household

Who are your children’s friends?
Have you ever interviewed or met them ?
What do your children bring with them from outside the home?
Where does your daughter go and with whom?

Some fathers do not know that their children are in possession of bad pictures, pornographic films, and perhaps drugs, and some of them do not know that their daughter goes with the maid to the market,

and asks her to wait with the driver and then goes to her date with one of the demons, and the other goes to drink smoke when a bad presumption is messing with her.

And those who spare their children will not escape the scene of a great day, and they will not be able to escape from the horrors of the Day of Judgment:

“God will ask every shepherd about what he nurtured, whether he preserves that or neglects it until a man asks about the people of his household.” In Sahih al-Jami’ 1775, al-Silsilat al-Sahihah 1636.

Here are important points:
Surveillance must be hidden.
No to terrorism.

You should not feel the loss of confidence in the boys .
In advising or punishing, the children’s ages, their perceptions, and the degree of error should be taken into account.

Beware of negative scrutiny and counting breaths. 

Someone told me that one of the fathers has a computer in which he stores his children’s mistakes in detail. If an error occurs, he is sent to call him and open the child’s box on the computer, and he lists the mistakes of the past with the present.

Comment: We are not in a company, and the father is not the king entrusted with writing down the bad deeds, and this father should read more on the principles of Islamic education.

On the other hand, I know people who refuse to interfere in the affairs of their children at all on the grounds that the child will not be convinced that the mistake is a mistake and the guilt is a sin unless he falls into it, then discovers his mistake himself.

Miserable Fatimah, and some of them let go of his son for fear that he might hate him for his claim, and say: I win his love no matter what he does. He is so low that he says: Let the son and the girl enjoy their youth as they want.

Do such people think that their sons may take their clothes on the Day of Resurrection, so the boy says: Why did you leave me, my father, in disobedience?!

Tip 17:
Take care of children at home

This has many aspects, including:
Memorizing the Qur’an and Islamic stories: There is nothing more beautiful than a father gathering his children to recite the Qur’an to them with a simplified explanation, and offering rewards for memorizing it.

Young children memorized Surat Al-Kahf from repeating the father’s recitation to it every Friday, and teaching the child from the foundations of the Islamic faith,

such as the example that was mentioned in a hadith “God will protect you,” and teaching him morals and legal remembrances, such as the remembrances of eating and sleeping, sneezing and salaams, and asking for permission.

Nothing is more alert and has a stronger impact on a child than narrating Islamic stories to his ears.

Among these stories: The story of Noah, peace be upon him, the flood, the story of Abraham, peace be upon him, in breaking idols and throwing him into the fire, the story of Moses, peace be upon him, in his deliverance from Pharaoh and his drowning,

the story of Yunus, peace be upon him, in the belly of the whale, and the summary of the story of Joseph, peace be upon him, and the biography of Muhammad, peace be upon him,

such as Mission and emigration, and some of the invasions such as Badr and the Trench, and others, such as his story, peace be upon him, with the man and the camel that starved and exhausted him, and the stories of the righteous,

such as the story of Omar Ibn Al-Khattab, may God be pleased with him, with the woman and her hungry children in the tent, and the story of the owners of the grooves, and the story of the owners of Paradise in Surah.

N, and the three owners of the cave, and others are many good, summarized and simplified, with comments and light pauses, which suffices us from many stories that are contrary to belief and superstitious or frightening that spoil the reality of the child, and instill in him cowardice and fear.

Beware of children going out with those who come and go: 

So they return to the house with bad words and manners, rather the children of relatives and neighbors are chosen and invited to play with them in the house.
Paying attention to children’s entertaining and purposeful play:

making a special playroom or locker, in which the children arrange their toys, and avoiding games that violate sharee’ah, such as musical instruments and what contains crosses or dice.

It is good to provide a hobby corner for boys, such as carpentry, electronics, mechanics, and some permissible computer games.

On this occasion, we point out the danger of some computer tapes designed to display very bad pictures of women on the screen of the device, or games with crosses, to the extent that one of them mentioned that one of the games is a gambling game with The computer, and the player chooses a picture of a girl from four girls who appear on the screen representing the other party.

Differentiating between males and females in bed: This is one of the differences in the arrangement of the homes of religious people and others who do not care about this.

Joking and flirting: The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, used to play with children, wiping their heads, being gentle when calling them, and giving the youngest the first fruits, and perhaps some of them took it.

 The following are two examples of his, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, caress of Hassan and Hussein, on the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, who said:

“The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, would stick out his tongue to Hassan bin Ali, and the boy would see the redness of his tongue and he would be astonished by him.”

That is, he liked him and attracted him, so he hurried to him. Narrated by Abu al-Sheikh in the morals and etiquette of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, see the Sahih Series No. 70. 

On the authority of Ya’la bin Murra that he said: We went out with the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, and were invited to a meal. Then Hussain was playing in the street.

The Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, hurried in front of the people, then spread out his hands and made the boy run away here and there, and the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, laughed at him until he took him.

One of his hands under his chin, and the other on the ax of his head, so he kissed him. Al-Bukhari narrated it in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad No. 364 and it is in Sahih Ibn Majah 1/29.

Tip 18:
Be firm in organizing bedtimes and meals:

Some houses are like hotels, their residents hardly know each other, and they rarely meet.

Some children eat whenever they want and sleep whenever they want, and this causes staying up late and wasting time, and introducing food to food.

Male and female, employees, workers and shop owners are not the same, but this is not the case for everyone, and it is not sweeter than the gathering of one family over food, and taking advantage of the opportunity to learn about situations and useful discussions.

For young people – young people or young minds – who are afraid of them.

Tip 19:
Evaluate women’s work outside the home

The laws of Islam complement each other, and when God commanded women by saying: “And stay in your homes” al-Ahzab / 33, He made for them someone to spend on them obligatory, like the father and the husband.

The basic principle is that a woman does not work outside the house except for a need, as Moses, peace be upon him, saw the two daughters of a righteous man on the water feeding their sheep, waiting, so he asked them:

“What is wrong with you? Because the guardian is not able to work because of his old age, so it became keen to get rid of work outside the house as soon as the opportunity arises.” One of them said, “Father, hire him. The best of those you hire is the strong and trustworthy” Al-Qasas verse 26.

So this woman explained in her words her desire to return to her home to protect herself, from the self-deprecation that she might be exposed to by working outside the home.

And when the infidels in the modern era needed women to work after the two world wars, to make up for the shortage of men, and the situation became critical in order to rebuild what the war had destroyed,

and that accompanied the Jewish plan to liberate women, and advocated their rights with the intent of corrupting women, and thus corrupting society, the issue of women’s exit leaked out. for work .

Although our motives are not the same as they are, and the individual Muslim protects his harem and provides for them, the movement to liberate women has become active, and the matter has reached the point of asking for her scholarship abroad,

and then demanding her work so that these certificates do not go to waste and so on, otherwise Islamic societies do not need This is the case on such a large scale, and one of the evidences for that is the presence of men without jobs, while the fields of work continue to be opened for women.

And when we say: “On this wide scale,” we mean that because the need for women to work in some sectors, such as teaching, nursing and medical treatment according to the Shariah conditions, is an existing need. She must go out to work even if she is not needed, even in a place that is not appropriate for her, and great trials have occurred.

One of the main differences between the Islamic approach to the issue of women’s work and the secular approach is that the Islamic conception of the issue considers that the principle is “and stay in your homes” and going out for need is “permission, but you go out for your needs,” and the secular approach is based on the fact that going out is the principle in all cases.

And for the sake of fairness in saying, we say that a woman’s work may actually be a need, such as if the woman is the breadwinner for the family after a dead husband, or a helpless father, and so on.

Rather, in some countries, as a result of the society’s lack of Islamic foundations, the wife is forced to work to cover the expenses of the house.

With her husband, and the man only proposes to an employee, some of them stipulated in the contract that his wife should work!!

In summary: a woman’s work may be for a need or for an Islamic goal, such as calling people to God in the field of education, or for entertainment, as happens to some of those who do not have children.

As for the negative aspects of a woman’s work outside the home, they include:

What happens to many types of Islamic law, such as mixing with men, getting to know them, forbidden seclusion, wearing perfume for them, and showing adornment to strangers, and the end may be immoral.

Not giving the husband his rights, neglecting the affairs of the home, and falling short in the rights of the children. This is our original topic.

Decreased sense of the real sense of the authority of a man in the hearts of some women. The feeling of being self-sufficient may cause problems that shake the foundation of the house, except for those whom God wants good for.

These problems of spending on an employed wife and spending on the house do not end.
Physical exhaustion and psychological and nervous pressure that does not suit the nature of women.

After this quick presentation of the benefits and disadvantages of a woman’s work, we say:

It is necessary to fear God, weigh the issue in the balance of Sharia, and know the cases in which it is permissible for a woman to go out to work, and which are not, and that worldly gains do not blind us from taking the path of truth, and the bequest to women for the sake of her interests.

And the interest of the house, and the husband should abandon retaliatory measures and not eat his wife’s money unjustly.

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Tip 20:
Keeping household secrets:

This includes, among other things,
not spreading the secrets of enjoyment.
Not leaking marital disputes .
Not to disclose any privacy that would harm the home or any of its members.

As for the first issue, the evidence for its prohibition is the saying of the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him:

“The most evil of people in the sight of God on the Day of Resurrection is the man who leads to his wife and she leads to him, then he spreads her secret.” Narrated by Muslim 4/157. 

And the meaning of leading: that is, it reaches it by direct intercourse and intercourse, as in the Almighty’s saying: “And some of you have led to others.” Surah An-Nisa, verse 21.

Also among the evidence for the prohibition is the hadith of Asmaa bint Yazid that she was with the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and the men and women were sitting.

He said: “Perhaps a man says what he does to his family, and perhaps a woman tells what she did with her husband.”

Messenger of God, they do! And they do!! He said: “Do not do that, for that is like Satan who met a demon in the way, so he cheated on her while the people were looking.” Narrated by Imam Ahmad, 6/457, and it is published in Wedding Etiquette by Al-Albani, p. 144. 

And in a narration by Abu Dawood: “Is there a man among you who, when his family comes and closes his door on him, throws his jacket on him, and covers himself with the veil of God?” They said: Yes, he said: Then he sits down after that and says: I did such-and-such.

Did any of you speak? So he remained silent, and a Ka’ab girl knelt on one of her knees and went to the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, so that he could see her and hear her words, and she said: O Messenger of God, they speak, and they speak. He said: Do you know what is like that?

 Rather, it is like that of a demon who met a demon on the road, and he fulfilled his need while the people were looking at him.” Sunan Abi Dawood 2/627; it is in Sahih al-Jami’ 7037.

As for the second matter, which is the leakage of marital disputes outside the perimeter of the home, it often complicates the problem, and the interference of external parties in marital disputes often leads to more estrangement,

and the solution becomes by correspondence between two people who are the closest to each other, so it is not resorted to except when Direct joint reform is not possible, and at that we do as God commanded: “Send an arbiter from his family and an arbiter from her family.

And the third matter: which is harming the house or one of its members – by spreading its privacy – and this is not permissible because it is included in his saying, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him:

“There is neither harm nor harm” Narrated by Imam Ahmad 1/313 and it is in the right series No. 250. 

An example of this is what was mentioned in the interpretation of the Almighty’s saying: “God gave an example to those who disbelieved, the wife of Noah and the wife of Lot, who were under two of our righteous servants, but they betrayed them.” Al-Tahrim, verse 10.

Ibn Kathir, may God have mercy on him, transmitted in the interpretation of this verse the following:

The secret of Noah, so if anyone believed with Noah, the mighty people from Noah’s people would tell about it, and as for Lot’s wife, if Lot added someone, she would tell the people of Medina who did evil.” Interpretation of Ibn Katheer 8/198. Any to come Afeemiloa their outrageous .


Ethics at home
Tip 21:

 Spreading kindness in the home:

On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, she said: The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said:

“If God – the Almighty – wants good for the people of a household, he introduces kindness to them.” Narrated by Imam Ahmad in al-Musnad 6/71 and it is in Sahih al-Jami’ 303 and in another narration:

“Indeed, God If he loves the people of a household, apply kindness to them.” Narrated by Ibn Abi Al-Dunya and others, and it is in Sahih Al-Jami’ No. 1704. 

That is, some of them became kind to each other, and this is one of the reasons for happiness in the home. Kindness is very beneficial between spouses and with children, and it brings results that violence does not bring, as he, peace and blessings of God be upon him, said:

“God loves kindness, and He gives for kindness what He does not give for violence, And what he does not give to anyone else.” Narrated by Muslim, Book of Righteousness, Relationships and Etiquette No. 2593.

Tip 22:
Helping the people of the house in the work of the house

Many men disdain domestic work, and some of them believe that what detracts from his status and status is to engage with the household in their profession.

As for the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, he used to “sew his clothes, trim his shoes, and do what men do in their homes.” Narrated by Imam Ahmad in al-Musnad 6/121 and it is in Sahih al-Jami’ 4927.

His wife, Aisha, may God be pleased with her, said that when she was asked what the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, used to do in his house, and she replied with what she saw herself. It was narrated by Imam Ahmad in Al-Musnad 6/256 and it is in Al-Silsilah As-Sahihah 671. 

She was also asked, may God be pleased with her, what the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, used to do in his house.

She said: He used to be in the profession of his family – meaning serving his family – and when the time for prayer came, he went out to prayer. Narrated by Al-Bukhari, Al-Fath 2/162
If we do that today, we will have achieved several interests:

We have
followed the example of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace.
Our family helped us.
We felt humbled and lack of arrogance .

Some men demand food from their wife immediately, and the pot is over the fire, and the boy is screaming wanting to breastfeed, so he does not hold the boy, nor does he wait for food for a while, so let these hadiths be a reminder and an example.

Tip 23:
flirting and joking with the people of the house

Fondling one’s wife and children is one of the reasons that leads to spreading an atmosphere of happiness and intimacy in the home. Hence, the Messenger of God, peace and blessings of God be upon him, advised Jabir to marry a virgin, and urged him by saying:

“Can a virgin play with her and play with you and make her laugh and make you laugh?” The hadith is in several places in the two Sahihs, including Al-Bukhari with Al-Fath 9 121 And he, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said:

“Everything that does not contain the remembrance of God is amusement and play except for four, a man’s foreplay with his wife..” Narrated by an-Nasa’i in Ten Women’s pg. 87 and it is in Sahih al-Jami’. 

And he, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, was courting his wife Aisha while he was bathing with her, as she said, may God be pleased with her:

“I and the Messenger of God used to wash from a vessel between me and him and one, and he would hasten to say: Leave for me, leave for me.” She said: “They are two sides.” Muslim in the explanation of al-Nawawi 4/6 .

As for his, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, kindness to boys, it is well-known to be mentioned, and he was often kind to al-Hasan and al-Husayn, as previously mentioned. With the boys of his family.” Sahih Muslim 4/1885-2772. See the explanation in Tuhfat Al-Ahwadhi 8/56.

And he, peace and blessings of God be upon him, would join them to him, as Abdullah bin Jaafar said: “When the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, came from a journey, he would throw us, and he would meet me and with goodness.”

Or by al-Husayn, he said: So one of us carried him in front of him and the other behind him until we entered Medina.”

Sahih Muslim 4/1885-2772, and see the explanation in Tuhfat al-Ahwadhi 8/56.

Compare this with the state of some bleak homes where there is no joking with the truth, politeness or mercy. 

And whoever thinks that kissing children is incompatible with the prestige of the father, let him read this hadith, on the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, who said:

The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, kissed al-Hasan ibn Ali, and al-Aqra ibn Habis al-Tamimi was sitting with him.

Then the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, looked at him, then said: “He who is not merciful will not be shown mercy.”

Tip 24:

Resist bad morals in the home:


No one in the house is free from abnormal behavior such as lying, backbiting, gossip and the like, and these manners must be resisted.

Some people think that corporal punishment is the only remedy in such cases, and the following is an authentic educational hadith on this subject, on the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with her, who said:

“If the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, was exposed to a lie in his household, he would still be exposed. From him until he makes repentance.” See the Musnad of Imam Ahmad 6/152 and the text of the hadith in Sahih Al-Jami’ No. 4675.

It is clear from the hadith that symptoms and abandonment by leaving speech and paying attention are severe punishments in such a case, and perhaps it has a greater effect than corporal punishment, so let the educators contemplate it in the homes.

Tip 25:
Hang the whip where the people of the house see it. It was included
by Abu Naim in Al-Hilyah 7/332 and it is in Al-Silsilah As-Sahihah No. 1446.

Waving the punishment is one of the fine means of discipline, and therefore the reason came from hanging the whip or stick in the house, and in another narration, the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

“Hang the whip where the people of the house see it, for it is polite to them.” Narrated by al-Tabarani 10/344-345 In the correct series No. 1447.

And seeing the instrument of punishment hanging makes those with bad intentions deterred from the clothes of vice for fear that Nael will infect them, and it will inspire them to be polite and have virtuous morals. . See Fayd al-Qadeer for al-Manaawi 4/325.

Beating is never the norm, and it is not resorted to except when other means of discipline have been exhausted, or the obligation to perform the obligatory acts of obedience, complete the verse of the Almighty: 

In order, like the hadeeth: “Tell your children to pray when they are seven years old, and beat them for it when they are ten.” Sunan Abi Dawood 1/334 and see Irwa al-Ghalil 1/266.


As for the use of beatings without the need, it is transgression, and the Messenger of God, peace and blessings of God be upon him, advised a woman not to marry a man, because he does not put the stick off his shoulders, i.e. the beating of women.


Evil in the home
Tip 26:
Beware of non-mahram relatives entering the woman’s home when her husband is away.

Tip 27:
Separate women from men on family visits.

Tip 28:
Pay attention to the dangers of drivers and housemaids.

Tip 29:
Get the hermaphrodites out of your homes.

Tip 30:
Beware the dangers of the screen.

Tip 31:
Beware of the evil of the phone.

Tip 32:
Everything in it that symbolizes the false religions of the infidels or their idols and gods should be removed.

Tip 33:
Remove images of animate beings.

Tip 34:
Avoid smoking in your homes.

Tip 35:
Beware of keeping dogs in the house.

Tip 36:
Avoid decorating homes.


The house inside and out
Tip 37:
Good selection of the location and design of the house:

There is no doubt that the right Muslim takes into account in choosing and designing his home a matter that no one else takes into account.

On the one hand site , for example:
to be a house close to a mosque in this great benefits are obvious, Valenda little awakens to prayer, and proximity can be the man to realize the group, women hear the recitation and the male from the loudspeaker of the mosque, and the young of Etienne loop memorization of the Koran and so on ..

not There is a building in which there is immorality, or residential complexes in which there are infidels, with a mixed swimming pool in the middle, and so on.

That it should not be uncovered or revealed, and if it did, he would seek the help of the berms and the heightening of the walls.
From the point of view of design, for example:
to take into account the separation of men from women from foreign visitors in terms of the entrance and the sitting rooms, and if not, then use curtains and barriers.

Covering the windows: so that no one in the rooms appears to the neighbor, or to the man in the street, especially at night when the lights are lit.
It should not be using the toilets off when used .

To choose a spacious dwelling and a home with many facilities, for a number of reasons, including:
“God loves to see the effect of His blessings on His servant.”

A hadith narrated by al-Tirmidhi No. 2819, and he said: This is a good hadith.

“Three are happiness and three are misery, from happiness: a righteous woman you see and you like, and you are absent from her, so she is safe with herself and your money, and the animal is low, and it will catch you with your friends, and the house is spacious with many facilities, and from misery:

the woman sees her and makes you miserable, and she holds her tongue against you, and if you are absent from her, she will not You trust it with itself and your money, and the beast will be plucked, and if you hit it, you will be tired, and if you leave it, it will not catch you with your companions, and the house has few facilities.”

Paying attention to health matters such as ventilation and sun entry, and these and others are limited by financial ability and available capabilities.

Tip 38:
Choose the neighbor before the house

This is an issue that needs to be singled out for its importance.

The neighbor in our time has more influence on his neighbor, due to the proximity of houses, and the gathering of people in buildings and apartments, and surnamed complexes.

The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, told about four things of happiness and mentioned among them:

the good neighbour, and he told about four of them of misery, and he mentioned among them: the bad neighbour. Narrated by Abu Naim in al-Hilyah 8/388 and it is in Sahih al-Jami’ 887.

 And because of the danger of the latter, he, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, used to seek refuge from him in his supplication, saying:

“O God, I seek refuge in You from a bad neighbor in the abode of resurrection,” meaning the one who is next to you in a fixed place, because the desert neighbor turns away.” Narrated by al-Hakim 1/532 and it is in Sahih al-Jami’ 1290.

And he commanded the Muslims to seek refuge from that, so he said: “Seek refuge with Allah from a bad neighbor in the abode of the station, for the apparent neighbor will turn away from you.” Narrated by Al-Bukhari in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad No. 117 and the wording in Sahih Al-Jami’ 2967.

And the space is narrow to talk about the impact of a bad neighbor on spouses and children, the types of abuse that come from him, and the troubles of living next to him, but in applying the previous hadiths to reality, it is sufficient for what is considered.

Calculating some money, for good neighborliness is not valued with money.

Tip 39:
Take care of the necessary repairs and provide amenities

Among the blessings of God upon us in this age are the comforts that He has bestowed upon us that facilitate life in this world, and save time, such as the air conditioner, refrigerator, washing machine…etc.

It would be wise to provide them at home with the quality that the owner of the house can afford without extravagance or hardship.

A distinction must be made between Useful improvement things and false luxuries that are of no value.

Part of the concern for the home is to repair the damaged facilities and equipment, and some people neglect, and their wives complain about houses in which insects are infested, and cesspools are overflowing, and rubbish reeks of unpleasant odors, and broken and damaged pieces of furniture are scattered in it.

Undoubtedly, this prevents happiness in the home, and causes marital and health problems, so a wise person is the one who can treat that.

Tip 40:
Take care of the health of the people of the house and safety measures

“The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, if one of his household fell ill, he would blow on him with witchcraft.” Narrated by Muslim No. 2192.

 And he, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, if his family became ill, would order soup “the well-known broth” and made it, then he commanded them to taste it, and by saying:

“It is to rise” to tighten” the sad fouad, and to ease “reveal” from the fouad of the sick, just as one of you seeks dirt from the Her face.”

Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi No. 2039 and it is in Sahih Al-Jami’ No. 4646,
and from some preventive and safety measures:
The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said:

“If you come in the evening, stop your children, for the devils spread out at that time, so when an hour of the night passes, leave them, then close the doors, and mention the name of God, cover your vessels, and mention the name of God, even if you present something to it, such as the lute and the like, and extinguish it.

” Your lamps.” Narrated by Al-Bukhari Al-Fath 10/88-89. 

And in a narration by Muslim: “Close your doors, cover your utensils, extinguish your lamps, and tie your waterskins.”

Tighten their ties on their mouths, for Satan does not open a closed door, does not reveal a cover, and does not untie a tie, and the fuoisa sets the house on fire for its people.

The House.” Narrated by Imam Ahmad in Al-Musnad 3/301 and it is in Sahih Al-Jami’ 1080.

And he, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “Do not leave the fire in your homes when you sleep.” Narrated by Al-Bukhari, Al-Fath 11/85.

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